So where do you draw the line?

I've been a single mom for 18 years. Even married I was a single mom. Don't worry this isn't a woe is me post but it could be.

Being a single mom sucks but sometimes it has it's advantages. I don't have to worry about someone under minding my athoriti. What I say goes. For the most part. I have the last word. Or I did until the teen decided that he wanted to see how far he could push mom voice his opinion.

But on the other hand it sucks. I just can't run to the store. I don't have that extra mouth, set of hands or whatever to help around the house.

First thing you're thinking is 'but you have a teenager'. When you get a teen, let me know how that works out. KTHX

So moving on. When I got laid off in May, getting a job was the hardest thing. I looked for hours on end, sent out countless resumes and spent all the time I could looking for a job. Thank heavens I had the help of my parents so I didn't have to pack up and run home with my tail tucked.

I decided that I was going to start the design site but like everything you start up, right now it's just paying for itself. I know it takes time but seriously, what happened to the dream of over-night success?

When I took the pictures of the Chris Cagle concert, I was given the opportunity to make some extra money taking pictures for The Round Up. Great but what this meant was me being out until 3am, paying a babysitter and dealing with the lack of sleep come the next morning. Bah, whatever, I can do this. The money was good enough that I would still make some after paying a sitter.

So why is it that I get shit from people because I'm trying to provide for my kids? Funny how, here I am busting my ass so my parents don't have to help me anymore and I get the looks like "oh, you're going to the bar" or "you're going out again?". If I was headed to a street corner selling crack, hey give me all the shit you want. I pay for a babysitter, I'm not earning the Mother of the Year award here but I am trying to provide for my kids.

I could go on and on but I think you get the drift, right? The next time a married, mother/father duo, or whatever tells me that I'm not doing what's right for my kids, or tells me how hard they have it...shove it.

Step into my shoes for a while and see how much you like being married or having that extra set of hands around.